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The Forgotten Gift of Man


This is a little out of my norm to write about or even comment about, but, after hearing about a rather objectifying comment made recently, I feel the need to say something weighing heavily on my heart. The comment was made, "Why put a ring on it when I can get it for free."  Now as a woman, and a married woman, that comment is disgusting to me. My first response was shock and then anger and then deep sadness. Men have forgotten that they are not just the takers in the relationship- they have  a gift to give too.  Here's where it gets a little inappropriate for young eyes. Sex is a gift- a beautiful gift from God meant to be enjoyed with your spouse in the holy covenant of marriage. But we have cheapened sex so much that it has become the entire object rather than a beautiful facet of connection with our spouse. And beyond that, in sex becoming the object, the person is now merely the delivery device. But it doesn't have to be this way. Many blogs like this focus on women and how terrible it is to objectify them with sex. While I agree, this blog is for the men.

Men, virginity is not just valuable in women. Women aren't the only ones who have something to give, and your only task is not to take that gift from them. You have a gift too. Women are not the only ones being objectified. This mindset of "I can get it for free" has stripped men of honor, of respect, and of their gift. Men, when you think this way, you become nothing more than a sex animal craving its next fix, caring nothing for the humanity of the person you are using for your own pleasure. You rob yourself of the honor of having waited for the right person. You rob your future spouse of the beauty of discovering sexuality with you. You rob your future spouse of the perfect harmony that comes from not having had multiple sex objects to compare her to. You rob yourself of a deep, beautiful connection with her- for what? some pleasure right now. Men, I feel that in many ways, society has dumbed you down in very unfair ways, but as a married woman, and the wife who was so blessed to find someone who waited for me, I feel that you are ignorantly robbing yourselves of so much- honor, respect, perfect sexuality- all because you need it now.

You have a beautiful gift. Save yourself to give away to the right person. Do not continue to cheapen yourselves for immediate pleasures. You are valuable, and you are worth waiting for. Show us that we are worth waiting for too.

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